We all know that giving birth is no picnic, but it’s an important moment in the lives of so many mothers. When Raquel Maldonado discovered that a natural birth wouldn’t be possible, she started to feel like she wasn’t going to be a “real mother”.
Maldonado was 32 weeks pregnant when she learned that her baby was breech. As she was in California, where it’s illegal to deliver breech babies, Maldonado was informed that she would have to have a C-section.
She was immediately terrified by this idea. She wasn’t scared of the process itself, but she had so desperately wanted to give birth in a natural way. She thought that, by having a C-section, she was losing out on an important part of motherhood.
Then, after the operation, Maldonado looked at her C-section scar and finally understood the truth about having a child.
Check out her story below.
The last few weeks leading up to Alexa’s birth, I was scared. I was terrified of this surgery. I was afraid of this scar and the long-term effects it would have on body and my mind.
I was worried I would feel inadequate, like I didn’t give birth to her. So many different fears lingered, but SO many other mamas told me, it would all be OK.
And it is. I don’t feel as if I was robbed of a birth or like less of a badass. This scar proves that I am indeed a #badassmama!
This surgery was not an easy decision for me. It pushed me to educate myself, to open my mind, to let go of my perfect expectations. I had everything I wanted during my birth.
We had skin to skin in the OR, we saw our daughter being birthed (actually have the video of it), my husband cut the umbilical cord, they delayed cord clamping and most importantly, our baby was safe and beautiful and my doctor respected every decision we made.
I couldn’t be more proud of this scar. I couldn’t be more proud of myself.
And all those silly fears disappeared as soon as I realized I was having the baby I prayed for and the birth experience I hoped for.
Maldonado learned an important lesson: it doesn’t matter how the birth actually happens, every mom is still a mom.
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